There are very few things worse than the growing realisation that you’re going to have to dump your partner. It’s right up there with stepping barefoot on an upturned plug, or realising there’s no loo roll when you have a serious need for it, it’s horrid.

In many ways it’s worse than being dumped. Personally I can think of a few occasions when I’ve continued dating someone for several weeks longer than I should, just because I can’t bear the thought of saying that they don’t cut the mustard. It does, of course, reach a point when their very touch makes you physically retch and every little thing they do makes you want to punch their teeth out, at that point there’s no way back, you simply must do it. Grrrrr.

My recent discovery has been that elbowing somebody new can be more difficult than ditching someone you’ve been with for a while. You see if you’ve been in a relationship for a while you can delicately tailor your explanation in order to have no long-term effect. But with someone you don’t know too well it’s nowt but an outright kick in the teeth. You’re almost saying “the fault in you that has prompted me to dump you is so very repulsive that I can’t bear to ignore it. Not even long enough to find out if you have other lovely traits that may potentially overshadow your fault. That’s how much I dislike you”. Which is harsh. Right?

The only time it’s not too tricky is if they are uber uber new (and I’m talking a month or less here). That’s because in these cases it is acceptable to do it via text or email, In fact I honestly believe there are certain people with whom to do it face to face would be odd. If you’ve only been out with a guy once or twice and you think he isn’t the one for you – extra toes, garlic fingers, whatever it may be – organising a get together to tell him this would be a bit much. A small text or email will suffice. And there’s not even a need to make a special effort to write it. Just wait until he next texts you to ask you out and simply say “Thanks very much. I enjoyed our dates, but to be honest, I don’t think we are very well suited”

This surely has to be the cleanest, quickest and easiest way to get your elbow out. It is however the only situation to which I have the answers, so if any of you know of the best way to dump more serious partners then PLEASE let me know!

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