Sometimes you’ll be cruising along, furiously flirting with a new boy, feeling nervous when he walks in a room, checking out his body language to be sure you’ve got the signals right and getting increasingly excited about the moment when it will inevitably turn from flirting into snogging. Bring it on!

But then, suddenly, inexplicably, it stops.

It’s as if you’ve been promised an all night party, but at midnight someone comes along and switches on the lights, turns the music off and tells everyone to get out. That’s it, the funs over, time to go home.

This is where my friend Sasha currently stands. She’s had a crush on a chap for a while (apparently he’s a cross between Barry Chuckle and Big Daddy – I supposed there’s no accounting for taste) and over the past two weeks they’ve started to flirt. Endless hours spent on MSN asking about each others favourite colour, favourite type of food, favourite month (questions about pointless subjects is a sure sign of flirting BTW), play fighting in the office and lots of squirreling away in a corner to chat without prying ears. All easily recognisable and very obvious flirtations.

Then, three days ago, it all stopped. He didn’t reply to emails or messages anymore. His conversations returned to their original formal nature and he started to leave the room when she entered it. Really odd.

She’s finding it tricky because she doesn’t know whether to ask him out right what the problem is. It’s not as if they were going out, so she doesn’t want to make a horse’s ass out of herself.

But what else to do? She can’t understand what’s happened.

This situation is not unique. It’s happened to me, on more than one occasion and so as far as I can tell, it’s usually down to one of three things.

1. Some bright spark has told him to ‘treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen’. An idea that anyone with even a smidge of brain would realise is lunacy personified.

2. He’s suddenly realised that he actually really likes you and has plopped his pants with fear.

3. For some kerazzeee bloke reason, he has genuinely lost interest.

The only way to deal with this dumb-ass boy is to be honest. You don’t have to fess up that you fancy him. Just tell him he’s been rude, unpleasant and frankly, you don’t like it. If he’s got an ounce of nouce he will pull his socks up pretty damn sharpish. If he doesn’t change his ways then he has gone off you, or is truly thick. Either way it’ s time to pop on your best smile and trot on until you meet the next one because although a sudden halt in proceedings is always disappointing, you can pretty much guarantee it will be short lived.

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