Have you ever spent hours analysing and dissecting a email from someone you fancy? Or then spent a similar amount of time trying to work out a reply that is witty-but-not-too-OTT/desperate/rude/inappropriate (delete as applicable). Discover the essential do's and don'ts of how to flirt (and still look cool) in cyberspace

1. Think about your responses. Tone of voice and sarcasm for example are often misread and can lead to awkward misunderstandings.
2. You don't ALWAYS have to meet your flirting partner, it is possible to have a 'flirtationship' that doesn't actually lead anywhere.
3. Keep it simple, short and amusing with the odd compliment thrown in!
4. Don't be too over familiar ie putting kisses after your message can come across as rather insincere. A kiss after a text or email should be saved for someone you know.
5. Never be overtly sexual via text/email if you haven't met yet. It can often culminate into a big anti-climax when you do finally meet and there is nothing else to explore.
6. Play hard to text - don't respond immediately. The old mantra 'treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen' applies to cyber 'flirting too but don't leave it too long - more than a day is just rude.
7. Timing - this is crucial if you want to make the right impression. Try not to send drunken texts that you will regret in the morning!
8. Avoid complex messages and acronyms like IWTKYBAO (I want to kiss your body all over), it's highly unlikely they'll know what you mean!
9. Always be yourself and be honest. An act is hard to keep up and you don't want someone to fall for the person you are pretending to be!
10. Have fun and don't take things too seriously. Flirting is all about having fun!

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How to handle yourself

Don't send rude, abusive or illegal stuff, or try to sell anything. You'll be chucked off very fast if you do. Good naughty is fine, bad naughty is off limits. If in doubt, check our terms and conditions.

Have fun! Flirtomatic is meant for fun, flirty communication.

How to handle other flirts

We are all adults here. However, Flirtomatic cannot guarantee that the person you are flirting with is telling the complete truth. Here are a few tips on how to hande other flirts:

Stay anonymous

For your safety, be wary about giving out personal details like your name, address, telephone number, or email address.

Block flirts

If you feel uncomfortable about a Flirt, you can block them from ever contacting you again by choosing "Block flirt" from the Options menu.

Report abuse

If another Flirt is behaving in a way which is unacceptable to you, please send us the details and we'll intervene if necessary. Select "Report abuse" from My Settings.

Meet safely

If you want to meet yp with a Flirt, take a few sensible precautions. Take a friend with you, and arrange to meet in a public place with lots of other people around. Tell a friend or family member where you are going and with whom. Travel to the meeting place by your own means and do not give any details about where you live. Back To Top